Why you need to celebrate your victories, and not sulk in your losses.

Ironic right- When something good happens in life, we rarely celebrate it. However, when something bad happens and we experience a loss, we focus on that more. 

 

It’s fair to say that in life, we all wanted something really bad. We desired this one thing that we were convinced it was destined for us. However, when that one thing doesn’t occur, we start to get down on ourselves and question our self worth. We start to question why the universe didn’t align it in our lives, why we weren’t good enough, why it wasn’t meant to be, and why we are forced to let it go. We hold onto that loss so much. We start to obsess over it. This ultimately leads us into a negative mindset, and that’s not what we want. However, it tends to be our visceral reaction towards life.

 

Have you ever wondered- Instead of focusing on all the negative things that are occurring in your life, why don’t we celebrate our victories instead? Even if your victories are small; they are still victories! These accomplishments need to be acknowledged because it will allow you to be more mindful of the blessings that are in your life. For instance, let’s say you are looking for employment and you end up securing an interview for your dream job. After a couple rounds of interviews, you feel like you’re so close to receiving the position. However, during the last round, you’re cut and they went with another candidate. Instead of celebrating how you beat our hundreds (or maybe thousands) of applicants by getting that far into the interviews, you focus on not getting the job. This leads you to question your worth by assessing what you could have done differently. By focusing on these hypothetical scenarios, you’re actually ending up hurting yourself more. You will start to define your identity and it’s worth through the eyes of other people.

 

Thus, it’s super important to celebrate your victories instead. In this example, a victory could be the extra interviewing experience you got, or even meeting a Human Resource employee who can refer you for another position in the future. Shifting your mindset towards a more optimistic space will only benefit you, and never hurt you. Furthermore, understanding that when something you really want doesn’t come to fruition is a great indicator that life is redirecting you towards what is meant to be. See, in life, what is meant to be and what you want are sometimes two completely separate things. Although there are some instances that what you want can become your reality, there are a lot of instances where that’s not the case.

 

Therefore, instead of feeling defeated when something doesn’t necessarily work out your way, shift your mindset and understand that you’re being redirected to what’s actually meant for you. You’ll remain optimistic about the future and what’s to come. So, along the way, celebrate your victories and learn that your ‘losses’ are pushing you towards something better.