6 sentiments you should stop saying.
A lot of people don’t understand the power of words. There’s a huge responsibility when it comes to expressing our thoughts and feelings. Sometimes the words we are prompted to say can linger in someone else’s mind for a lifetime. Hence, it is extremely important to watch our words and use them responsibly.
However, we get it. We all have opinions and we are entitled to them. We may mean well, but it might not be delivered that way. People comprehend sentiments differently, so it’s paramount for us to be self-aware in the way we phrase our thoughts.
Take a look at the six sentiments listed below. Ask yourself if you have uttered these words. Then think about how the receiving individual might have felt when you expressed them.
“No offence, but you…”
Starting off any sentence with “No offence” is most likely an offensive statement. It’s a clear indicator that you probably shouldn’t continue speaking. You want to avoid hurting other people’s feelings, and we’re certain that any sentence that starts with “no offence” will. Sometimes in life it’s better to bite your tongue and keep things to yourself.
“When are you getting married?”
Inquiring about someone’s relationship is really none of your business- especially when it comes to marriage. By asking this question, you’re actually perpetuating the socially constructed pressure of marriage. You’re alluding to the fact that someone’s relationship is invalid if they don’t get married. However, it’s important to note that marriage isn’t for everyone! You can still be in a loving relationship without signing a marriage certificate.
Check out the video below where Shonda Rhimes discusses her stance on marriage. We are certain that it will change your perspective. Hopefully it will help prevent you from uttering this question again.
Source: OWN/YouTube
“I wish I had what they have.”
There’s a big difference between resenting and coveting someone for their blessings. If you’re finding yourself uttering this sentiment, you might be a bit of a jealous individual. Demonstrating jealousy towards another person will only harm you. It will make you look bitter. It’s an unattractive quality to possess. Remember, celebrating someone else’s success will never dampen yours. Understand that the timing for everyone’s life is different, and as long as you work hard and stay focused, blessings will enter your life. Ultimately, there’s nothing wrong with yearning for something. But if you’re resenting someone for having certain things or accolades, then it’s time to reassess your approach.
“You don’t need to wear makeup.”
What someone puts on their face really shouldn’t concern you. However, if you vocalize this sentiment, we get it- You’re probably admired by someone’s natural beauty. Nonetheless, makeup is a personal preference. If someone feels more confident putting on a bold lipstick and eyeshadow, it’s their prerogative. Instead of telling someone they don’t need to wear makeup, reframe your approach and complement their makeup.
“I’m really sorry.”
I know this sentiment may spark some debate and confusion, but hear us out. Apologizing when it’s warranted is absolutely necessary. It shows that you’re mature enough to set aside your ego and admit you were wrong. However, people tend to apologize in unwarranted situations. If you find yourself constantly saying sorry when you genuinely feel like you shouldn’t, then don’t be afraid to stand your ground and respectfully tell someone how you really feel.
“That’s not my job.”
This comment is typically stated in the workplace. Avoid saying this sentence at all costs. The ability to be collaborative is a critical element to any job. If you utter these words, you will come off as difficult and a bad culture fit. It’s important to remember that sometimes you will need to oversee responsibilities that weren’t necessarily included in your job description. Albeit, the additional responsibilities might be stressful, this is actually something you should be proud of. This is because you have proven yourself to be trusted enough to streamline important work related initiatives.
"Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble."
― Yehuda Berg